Are you one of the several million people single on Valentine's Day? Truth is, that it is 100% Okay. Sure, it is lonely, and you are reminded of how alone you are every chance you get on this day, but it truly is okay. Let me explain. This one day a year is materialized. People, young and old, are told that if they don't receive expensive flowers, overpriced cards and candy, a movie and a romantic dinner, that they are not loved. Sure, it is easy to buy into this idea seeing five hundred Facebook post in the categories of: First Valentine's together selfie, X amount of years spend together on V-day boasts, pictures of the nice gifts they have received and why you should be jealous. But, the truth is that Love has nothing to do with any of these things. True love is a painting. The skies are dark, the grass is withered in sorrow for the loss of a life. Jesus, God in the flesh, hanging from a cross, that he himself carried up on a mountain. His body is beaten beyond recognition. His last words before his final breath are, "Father, It is finished."
True Love is kind, patient, not self seeking, never rude or proud. Love is so many things. 1st Corinthians 13:4-8 " Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.8 Love never fails." God Sent his one and only son to die as a sacrifice for all who have sinned, so that they may live. That is a perfect picture of Love. You are loved period. No amount of chocolate, steak dinners with candles illuminating the night, or cards can ever trump the love that God has shown for you. It is nice to have a loved one to spend Valentine's day with. Husbands and wives should cherish these times with one another, and with their children. Fathers and mothers of grown adult children should also partake in sharing love with others on this day, as well as with friends. However, we should all stop and evaluate something. Are we showing God's love on this day, or are we giving into material things and lust? Are we angry that we didn't get the nicest roses, or that our sister in laws got a new car? Maybe, your brother's wife got him a new hunting rifle. Are you envious? Are you angry? Love is none of those things. For the single folks mentioned above. It is absolutely okay to be single on V-day, or any other day of the year. God loves you. Your family loves you. You do not have to have a boy friend or girl friend to determine your worth. Being single is a blessing all of its own, just as being married is a blessing. But, I tell you as much as I enjoy the benefits of my marriage, I also long for the freedom I had being single. I did not know what a blessing it was to serve the Lord being single, until I was single no longer. Being married is a blessing as well, however it can also have its burdens. When you become one with your spouse, the battle begins. Satan is on attack. For me personally, I could serve the Lord better as a single person. One reason being that I was more focused on the Lord. I did not have a husband to worry about. I had less responsibilities. I could go out into the mission field at home and serve anytime, day or night. But, when I got married I realized that I was now having to split my time up. Dinners had to be made, clothes had to be washed, homes had to be cleaned, and time had to be spent with my new family. It was so nice to have all of that, but it was also exhausting. Making time for God became harder and harder for me. Also having a spouse who was not of the Lord made things 100 times harder. Lots of prayer and dedication went into helping my husband become a Godly man. But, there was also a lot of hardships. Lying in bed next to a man I loved so much was terrifying. He could die at any moment and not go out into eternity with the Lord. That was a huge weight lifted off my chest when he became saved. There are so many things that you will never think of until you are married. When your souls are joined together, you enjoy one another, you feel what the other is feeling, but with that comes feeling each others pain. The point is that being married is a blessing but so is being single. God has a perfect match for you, and there most definitely is a reason you have not found them yet. It's simple. God's timing is always perfect. We are all living on borrowed time that we do not deserve. God loves us so much that he has provided a way for us to escape the hell that we deserve! Let knowing that be the best Valentine's gift you ever receive!
"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believes on him shall not perish, but have eternal life in Christ Jesus." -John 3:16
Truth is: You are loved! Period! Valentine's day is just like every other day, a borrowed day given to you from the Lord our God!
